Saturday, March 12, 2016

Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts

When a negative thought hits your life, you have to attack that thought with the Word of God and literally crush that thought. Now we get thoughts, the key is that we have to bind those thoughts that are not of God and speak the thoughts that are of God.

Now someone might be asking, is it good to talk to yourself? It all depends. If you’re not going to talk to yourself correctly, don’t open your mouth. Example: if you tell yourself that you’re not going to make it, you’re not going to succeed, don’t open your mouth! Now if you are telling yourself that you’re an overcomer, I will succeed, this dream will be mine, you better open your mouth (so what you can resonate within your body).

Well, how do you get rid of negative thoughts? It might be a challenge especially if you’ve seen negative around you, and the people around you are just negative. Here’s a starting point. Say something nice about yourself and the accomplishments you’ve done in your life. If you can’t think of one, I could’ve been dead, but I’m still alive. I am free to breathe the air outside and I can soar the heavens like a bird in the sky. I have overcome the worst in my life, and this storm is over now. I am a survivor and I can do anything I set my mind to.  These are just examples, but let me add a few more. I am worthy of love, and I am smart enough to get that job. What’s also needed to get rid of negative thoughts is a transforming of the mind with something positive.

Sometimes negative thoughts will come from negative people. I hear that classic jam roaming through my head: I know you know someone that has a negative vibe… If you know it, go ahead and sing it because it’s the truth. What negative people will do is sew thoughts to cause you to doubt, to quit, and to think lowly of yourself so they can boost their ego. In this case, you may need to get rid of these negative people so you aren’t fed negative thoughts.

This is just a short blog to help someone who’s battling negative thoughts in their head. I’m sure I’ll be blogging more on this as the year continues.


The Mayne Man

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

There Is A Queen In You

I don't know why I'm writing this blogpost, but I believe this will touch a woman's heart, mind, soul & spirit. Back around 2009, there was a popular song by Donald Lawrence called "There Is A King In You," and it's dedicated to those who have struggled in life no matter what the situation. You can say that the song inspired this blogpost and now, I would like to target this post to the ladies because all of you need to know that there is a Queen in you. But first, let me give you a few definitions of the word "Queen."

1. the female ruler of an independent state, especially one who inherits the position by right of birth.

2. (Before I give this definition, if you have heard me talk about chess and my love for playing it, this confirms what I have said about the power of a woman, especially in a relationship) - the most powerful chess piece that each player has, able to move any number of unobstructed squares in any direction along a rank, file, or diagonal on which it stands.

3. A Biblical Queen using Sheba from 1 Kings 10 as an example - is a woman who knows her worth.

So what do I want to share with you? A few years back (in 2012) I did a blog entitled the attack on women. You see, when the devil tempted Eve, his sole purpose was to get her tied to him and her focus off of her husband as well as God. As a result, she started guessing her better judgment, she settled for temporary (like settling for coach instead of first-class). I know there are many women who can relate to this scenario to include being tied to men who aren't even the same faith and to destroy the true Queen that she's supposed to be and live. It's sad to see Queens destroy each other and tear each other down and it's even worse when men manipulate them forgetting that he's nothing without her (just like in chess). But this is simply an attack on a spiritual level. Because Christ the true King was born via a woman and would crush the devil's head, he (the devil) hates women and will do anything to destroy her true Queenship through doubt, situations such as rape, being abused sexually, physically, emotionally, financially and the list goes on. Romans 5:17 says For if because of one man’s trespass (lapse, offense) death reigned through that one, much more surely will those who receive [God’s] overflowing grace (unmerited favor) and the free gift of righteousness [putting them into right standing with Himself] reign as kings in life through the one Man Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One). So if we're to reign, then we have to shame the devil! If we reign, one way to shame the devil is not dropping our pants and engaging in pre-marital sex because that's below the level of a king and a queen.

We as brothers and sisters in Christ need to stop writing off those who are knocked down. We're siding with the devil when we do that and those knocked down who are wounded need us to build them up via prayer, fasting, intercession and with love AND the authority of Christ. Ladies, I stand with you as a friend and a brother in Christ and know that you are a Queen and I see you as God sees you. A woman who is made in God's image. There is truly a Queen in You! Believe it, say it, and walk in it by faith, even as you are healing. Don't give up on your healing. You're not out for the count (even though many believers think you are), I will never count you out because God doesn't see you out for the count. So, for every woman reading this, I declare this over you (and I encourage you to declare this over yourself), there is a Queen in you.


The Mayne Man

Sunday, March 6, 2016

Finding A Mate Is Like Flying

A few days ago on my Facebook wall, I was posting about the similarities of how finding a mate is like flying. I want to take my posts (along with some of the comments I received) to make this blogpost come alive. As I was preparing to put this post together, I was thinking about Apostle Melissa Mimi Ewell’s post that she contributed to my wall last year entitled “Finding A Wife is Not Like Shoe Shopping.” Great post, and you can check it out right here.

But I thought about it, finding a mate is like flying. When you board an airplane, there’s typically a first class section (with no more than 4-5 rows in the front of the aircraft), and the remaining seats are coach. On some aircrafts, you’ll find a section right behind first class called business class. Coach tickets are cheaper than first-class (in fact, you’re so cramped in coach, that you have to pay for extra legroom if you want it). Most people won’t consider flying first class because it’s expensive (now I'm not judging anyone who doesn't fly first-class, I'm just using analogies for this post) just like many won't strive for a first-class relationship because it's like shopping for an expensive engagement ring. Now, I've flown in coach, and I’ve had the privilege of flying certain parts of my flights in first-class, and I can tell you it’s an experience sitting in first-class (but there are also differences between the two). Now in relationships, if you are just trying to find a fling for the moment, or to satisfy a need (what we simply call “settling”), it’s like flying coach. And you end up trying to look through the curtain that separates coach from first class to find an escape route (especially if the relationship is a volatile one). But when you get first class in a relationship (a mate that’s truly chasing after God), you don’t look back at the curtain to see what the folks in coach are doing (those that settled).

Here’s another thought that separates coach from first class. Now, when I’ve flown first-class, the minute I sit in my seat (which is much more comfortable than a coach seat), I’m asked if I want something to drink and they bring me some warm mixed nuts (that are actually good). It’s like I’m being served and treated with respect. Now let’s be real for a minute, how many of you have flown in coach and wondered, “why is it that I only get a cup of soda and the folks up front get the full can?” Relationships are no different. In coach, you’ll get a cup of your mate or just a portion of your mate – that means your mate is more & likely withholding things from you; you're not getting their true devotion; and the list goes on), and in first-class, you get 100% of your mate (they are true, faithful, and love God like all get-out)! Now I'm not saying there won't be problems in a first class relationship, but in this type of a relationship, both parties are determined to make it work and keeping it a 100-100 love (not just a 50-50 love – smile). In a coach relationship, one is making all the sacrifice and I'm sure many can testify to it being draining.

One comment made under this particular post was that sometimes ladies don’t recognize first class because they are so used to coach. I would say that one reason is due to the upbringing they had (it may not be a bad thing especially given the circumstances). The environment they grew up in can play a role and they may not have been able to envision a better life beyond the environment they grew up in.

Another comment was many have gotten tired of waiting for first-class because it takes too long. I can see many have grown tired (if you think about it, on an aircraft, there's not that many first-class seats), and there are plenty of coach seats going around. It's a sacrifice to reach for that status and decisions have to be made, to settle, or declare and decree that over your life (I’m first class, and I’m going to have it).

The last comment I received under this post requires no additional response from me. It said this: Why settle for 70% ground Chuck when can have Prime Rib? It's knowing your worth and value that makes all the difference. Even when you’re tired of waiting and use to coach know that God has a better plan. Trust Him!

I pray that this post blesses you. You can have the best in all areas. And if you are in a relationship that’s first class, I pray God will continue to bless your relationship! If you’re in a relationship that’s coach, I pray this will empower you to not settle!


The Mayne Man