In January 2014, Pastor Shantae Charles (who by the way is my developmental editor) and I were discussing about why leaders burnout. I was sharing one side as to why leaders are burning out in churches and she was sharing with me the other side. So, Shantae wrote what she sees in Part 1 and I write what I see in Part 2.
Part 1- Where Are The Laborers?
From a leadership standpoint, I've seen Pastors burn out
simply because they lack fellow laborers for various reasons. Some laborers
insist on being served and never serving. Some laborers refuse training and
equipping. Some laborers feel it is all on the leader to carry the load of
ministry. Acts gives a clear example of why the office of Deacon was
established: so that those preaching had time to give to the work of feeding
the flock and that required time before the LORD.
Acts 6 Now about this time, when the number of the
disciples was greatly increasing, complaint was made by the Hellenists (the
Greek-speaking Jews) against the [native] Hebrews because their widows were
being overlooked and neglected in the daily ministration
(distribution of relief).
2 So the Twelve [apostles] convened the multitude of
the disciples and said, It is not seemly or desirable or right
that we should have to give up or neglect [preaching] the Word of God
in order to attend to serving at tables and superintending the
distribution of food.
3 Therefore select out from among yourselves, brethren,
seven men of good and attested character and repute, full of the
[Holy] Spirit and wisdom, whom we may assign to look after this business and duty.
4 But we will continue to devote ourselves steadfastly
to prayer and the ministry of the Word.
5 And the suggestion pleased the whole assembly, and
they selected Stephen, a man full of faith (a strong and welcome belief that
Jesus is the Messiah) and full of and controlled by the Holy
Spirit, and Philip, and Prochorus, and Nicanor, and Timon, and Parmenas, and
Nicolaus, a proselyte (convert) from Antioch.
6 These they presented to the apostles, who after
prayer laid their hands on them.
7 And the message of God kept on spreading, and the
number of disciples multiplied greatly in Jerusalem;
and [besides] a large number of the priests were obedient to the
faith [in Jesus as the Messiah, through Whom is obtained eternal salvation in
the kingdom of God].
8 Now Stephen, full of grace (divine blessing and
favor) and power (strength and ability) worked great wonders and
signs (miracles) among the people.
The cares of the Believers needed to be met, but they were
delegated to those not called to the feeding of the flock spiritually. When we
are all operating where God has called, the message of the Gospel can spread
unhindered. It is interesting that many desire to be fed new revelation, but as
they clearly show above, Leaders need time to give themselves to prayer and the
study of the Word. They cannot do that if they are encumbered about and
overwhelmed with an office other than their own. That office is Pastoring. When
it is neglected, it will show in the lives of the flock.
I can't tell you how many comments I've had to endure that
assumed that I wasn't "really doing much" with my time as a Pastor,
not realizing that if a Pastor has not chosen the most important thing
"sitting at the feet of Jesus" they really should not try to feed you
from their soulish realm. I recently read a post that I believe sums up another
area that Pastors struggle with: opening their heart to unreceptive people.
Listen to these wise words from Dr. Matthew L. Stevenson III:
On a few occasions, the Apostle Paul spoke to the assembly
He held responsibility over regarding the position of his heart towards them.
He says in 2 Cor 6:11-13 "We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and ENLARGED OUR HEARTS towards you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange—I speak as to my children—open wide your hearts also.
He expresses that He and His Team were leading a people whose hearts were closed towards Him. The Apostles heart was ENLARGED and OPENED in the direction of his people. His admonishment was to have them open their hearts towards His leadership.
Then again in another chapter, 2 Cor 7;2-3, He says this;
" Make room for us in your hearts. We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have exploited no one. I do not say this to condemn you; I have said before that you have such a place in our hearts that we would live or die with you."
This is so convicting and yet so enlightening. You will not get much from the personality of your leader, but that's not the part of him/her that's meant to impact you. You are meant to be partakers of what rests on his/her life. You will never get the most out of what rests on your leader if your heart is closed towards them.
Consider; IS YOUR HEART OPENED IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR LEADER/LEADERSHIP??
Many a person has been disappointed because of what they thought they weren't getting from their leader, when the real issue is, when God assigns a leader to your life, he's not their to be your social buddy, but an instrument and conduit, that God's plans can be articulated and stewarded in your life. Maybe you aren't getting the fullness of what you should be getting because your heart is closed. This principle works both ways. As a leader, is your heart opened WIDE to those you lead?
He says in 2 Cor 6:11-13 "We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and ENLARGED OUR HEARTS towards you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange—I speak as to my children—open wide your hearts also.
He expresses that He and His Team were leading a people whose hearts were closed towards Him. The Apostles heart was ENLARGED and OPENED in the direction of his people. His admonishment was to have them open their hearts towards His leadership.
Then again in another chapter, 2 Cor 7;2-3, He says this;
" Make room for us in your hearts. We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have exploited no one. I do not say this to condemn you; I have said before that you have such a place in our hearts that we would live or die with you."
This is so convicting and yet so enlightening. You will not get much from the personality of your leader, but that's not the part of him/her that's meant to impact you. You are meant to be partakers of what rests on his/her life. You will never get the most out of what rests on your leader if your heart is closed towards them.
Consider; IS YOUR HEART OPENED IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR LEADER/LEADERSHIP??
Many a person has been disappointed because of what they thought they weren't getting from their leader, when the real issue is, when God assigns a leader to your life, he's not their to be your social buddy, but an instrument and conduit, that God's plans can be articulated and stewarded in your life. Maybe you aren't getting the fullness of what you should be getting because your heart is closed. This principle works both ways. As a leader, is your heart opened WIDE to those you lead?
- Dr. Matthew L. Stevenson III
I close with this: On both sides of the coin, leaders and
followers, we need to be mindful of placing ungodly expectations on each other.
The goal should not be: can I get my "money's worth" out of a leader
or can I get my "service worth" out of a follower. The goal should be
to serve one another in love, to spread the message of the Kingdom, and to see
God's citizenship increase. Whether leading or serving we must check our
motives and we must align our expectations with the Word of God. When we veer
from how God has called his church to administrate, there is bound to be
issues. Christ is the foundation. He laid it already. He's instructed us to
build carefully, to not construct paradigms that move away from the foundation.
We must pray to the Lord of the Harvest to send laborers who
are willing to serve in their field and gather the harvest of souls. The
harvest is plenteous, but the laborers are few. Let's pray for laborers who
love the Lord of the Harvest, their fellow co-laborers, and the harvesting of
souls.
Part 2 - I Want Control
Whether I'm
visiting a church or watching TV, I am finding where the church is all about
the leader and they want total control - and some will turn around and complain
that they're burned out. It can extend down to bible studies and group meetings
- where the leader will want you to confess their sins.
A few years back, a
well known pastor was charged with having sex with another male. If it had not
been for someone exposing their sin, the probability of him coming clean with
his sin would be about zero. And many leaders feel today that they don't have
to share their sins, and still maintain control. A critical piece to this
control is that there is very little delegation (and if there is any
delegation, the leader must ensure he is in control). Many leaders have
forgotten James 3:1 where it says let there not be many teachers for they will
receive the greater condemnation. A leader will be focused on church growth and
ensuring that the congregation brings members to the church to boost his ego.
Back to the pastor's story, the people who are in the leadership role should've
held him accountable. Now there will be some leaders who will expose the sin to
the congregation (but will be predicated if you're part of the leader's elite
circle). But because the leader wants all the attention and all the glory,
those are to hold the leader accountable either burnout (trying to keep the
leader happy or to maintain their position). Either way, leaders who feel they
want total control have no right to complain when they are burned out. That's
the price to pay for wanting to be the main man. Many have to learn the hard
way that the main man syndrome will kick your back side in more ways than one.
To close my segment (which is relatively short by the way –
since I covered this heavily in two blog series in the beginning of 2013 entitled the AMCC &
What Breaks The Heart of God), I say this: leaders need to know that if they
burnout and don't let the body of Christ flourish in their gifts, they will
scatter and the church can crumble.
We pray that you’ve been blessed by this.
Blessings:
The Mayne Man
