Friday, April 17, 2015

Bitter Like Naomi?

This was on my spirit yesterday morning. So many times when we read Ruth, we're focusing on chapter 1 and verse 16; or on Ruth finding Boaz. Rarely do we talk about Naomi, and that's who we're going to talk about today. I believe this is going to set someone free who experienced a loss and is bitter as a result, but as Jessica Reedy said, you must believe it gets better.

In the first chapter of Ruth, we find that Naomi lost her husband to death. A few verses down, she lost her sons.  See, when you're grieving, there's a strong tendency to push people away. That's what Naomi was trying to with her daughter-in-laws. Now, those who have grieved before (or are currently grieving) can testify to what Naomi was doing. I want to encourage those who are grieving (or who need to grieve) to grieve. Granted, I know the loss of my father will come in stages; but anyway, Jesus said blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. 

Part of me wants to jump ahead to say something, but I'll refrain for now. When Naomi was pushing her daughter-in-laws away, Ruth was adamant in staying with Naomi. See, Naomi felt that this was the Lord's doing and that she was being punished. When Ruth & Naomi reached Bethlehem, Naomi wanted to be called Mara - which means bitter. Now I will say what I want to say. I know there are a lot of people who might be grieving (or covering their pain with a smile) either the dead or the living. What am I talking about?

You're grieving the loss of a spouse
You're grieving the breakup of a friendship, relationship, marriage
You're grieving the loss of a child
You're grieving the death of a dream
You're grieving a financial setback, bad investment deal
You're grieving your childhood abuse, the pain you feel you allowed yourself to endure (via domestic abuse)

And for some of you reading, you feel like Naomi and/or walking around with Mara as your nickname (and not realizing it). Believe me, I've walked around with Mara as my nickname so you're not alone. But it's time to get better - in His time. God doesn't want you bitter at the world because of what the enemy has done in your life. The past should not scar your future especially to the point you penalize the future due to your past. God has so much in store for you - the best is yet to come!

Of course, I can't end this blogpost here. There's one more thing that needs to be said: in Ruth 2:20, Naomi declared this to Ruth; "May he (Boaz) be blessed by the LORD, whose kindness has not forsaken the living or the dead!" What she's starting to understand is that God never forsakes those He's called. He's called you right where you are. You may feel bitter right now, but you can feel better once you allow the grieving process to run its course. 


The Mayne Man


  1. Amen... This blessed me. Even as one who has been through grief through the loss of a husband. I'm a witness that God is a healer and a restorer! Thanks for sharing!

  2. I like how you touched on other elements such as grieving from financial loss! I can so relate. Bitter but we can be better know that God does have a better plan...we GROW when we GO thru something too.

  3. I've been reading about forgiveness lately (of others and ourselves). I feel like this goes hand in hand. Thanks, Tremayne. Nice work!