Why The Judicial System/Government Allows Authorities To Abuse The Abused

This was not a planned blog, so God is in control of this one. I will continue the series why the judicial system is failing abused children, but I believe God wants this out so justice is served for hurting survivors.

One thing I do is educate and speak on things. I don't want to leave people with the feeling of sorrow and pain, but I want you to be able to rise from where you are to show that YOU are not only a survivor, but YOU are loved, and cared for in a world where you feel forsaken (when those who say they love you take advantage of you).

So, why is the judicial system and/or the government allowing authorities (such as the police, jailers, those in leadership positions) to take advantage of abused victims? Well, the easy answer comes from Ecclesiastes 8:11 - Because the sentence against an evil deed is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.

I can tell you straight up that an alarm needs to ring when abused survivors of sexual abuse, domestic abuse are in mental institutions, failing to give victims the help (natural and spiritual), and as a result of their failure, the survivors institutionalized become suicidal (not all, but some do). I found out a moment ago that women who suffered abuse, traumatized, and institutionalized are stripped down to nudity. Now let's add to this trauma that women go through, the male jailers mock them and rape them without getting caught. I can promise you God is watching them. To me, the sad part is that the judicial system and/or government knows about this and allow it to continue under their watch and ours. Not only that, but they will just hand medication to survivors as the ultimate remedy. 

I pray for every abuse survivor (regardless of where they are because I am one, but more importantly because they are worthy of love and God loves them too). I pray for the government and judicial system because they are going to have a lot of blood on their hands if they don't repent for their actions. I pray that every survivor receives a double blessing for the pain they suffered that no man (or demon in hell) can take from them. 

To my fellow survivors, we're still alive. I love you all dearly and we have stories to tell. Let your voice be heard, for we can and WILL change the world. You can (and WILL) thrive - and I say this to me too. We need each other to survive and I will try my hardest to not harm you with the words from my mouth. 

Blessings:

The Mayne Man

Author Spotlight (Jennifer Hayes)

I met this author at the BWABC Literacy Festival (held in Memphis, TN) in September 2013. I didn't get a chance to talk her like I wanted to, but the little that I did find out from her, she has a story to tell. She won the 2013 BWABC Female Author of the Year Award. With that said, show your love for my sister & fellow author, Jennifer Hayes.

With more than 14 years in the dating industry, Jennifer J. Hayes has the passion and dedication to helping her clients find love that lasts. She believes in love, fully, and won’t stop until everyone around her has what she has. Through her career in the matchmaking field, as well as her dedication as the Love Guru, Jei Knows It All, she ensures her clients have all of the knowledge and assets to sustain a passionate, meaningful relationship for a lifetime!

Throughout her journey as a wife and a mother, Jennifer has learned what it takes to have it all. She is never one to skimp in an area of her life, and knows that if you want it all, you have to commit it all!

Jennifer considers herself blessed and fortunate, and therefore is concerned with community efforts. She is constantly dedicating herself to philanthropic efforts, causes such as Heart Disease and Breast Cancer, and her awareness for literacy prompted her own foundation Iknowhowtoread.org.

“Love Big, and Live Big.” Jennifer considers herself lucky to know what it’s like to have passion and to have comfort. She’s never one to give only 50% and is excited to give her whole effort to trying new things. While the two loves in her life are her husband and her son, she constantly finds pleasure in finding new pleasures, such as authoring her debut book, Bound by Memphis.

Jennifer J. Hayes has a varied educational background in Communications, Education, a Bachelor’s in History, and a Master’s in Clinical Psychology. She earned both of her degrees from the University of Houston. Her work of published articles can be found in WorldOfLongmire, RelevantMagazine, and Single Lifestyles Magazine.

Bound by Memphis

Loosely inspired by true events, Bound by Memphis, by Jennifer J. Hayes, is the steamy, sultry romantic story of Jasmine Henderson, a successful public relations consultant who has everything she's wanted in life... Well, just about everything. Fourteen years ago, while planning her wedding to Melvin Brown, better known as MB, she was left at the altar with no explanations. Although she assumed she'd never move on, she ended up meeting and marrying the love of her life, Chauncey M. Henderson, and having a child, years later. It's when Jasmine's latest work venture places her in the city that holds memories to her past, Memphis, MB resurfaces when he learns she's back in town. Although Jasmine loves her husband, her son, and her life, she can't deny the passion and chemistry that she once shared with MB. Briefly away from her family and home in Dallas, Jasmine is left alone to deal with these emotions and unresolved questions of MB. She goes looking for answers to why he walked away. When forced to confront painful memories she awakens something she thought died long ago. In this novel, Jasmine discovers herself as she explores the depths of her former love versus her current life, and learns "Love doesn't change, people change." Bound by Memphis takes you on an insightful journey of love, joy, and pain, and gives a deeper meaning to why sometimes "you have to lose happiness to find it again."

 

 

Why The Judicial System/Government Is Failing Abused Children (Part 4)

This is Part 4.

It was pressed on my spirit (New Year's Day) to do a post on this topic. This is dear to my heart and it's my prayer after you read this, you will be moved to action. I now share my thoughts (intermingled with a fellow advocate or two) as to why the judicial system/government is failing abused children.

Article 1:
http://www.okcfox.com/story/24336336/police-woman-concerned-son-was-assaulted-kidnaps-man-and-slices-genitals

Article 2 (this one focuses on suicide – which the rate for children is increasing):

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/5-year-old-girls-hangs-california-possible-foul-play/

Article 3:

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/disgusting-mother-accused-sexually-abusing-children-agesa-8-33/

Article 4:

http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/25/world/americas/colombia-mom-sells-daughters/

When I think about the articles above, only one can shake their head. Not only do I shake my head, but I also cry for the children who are neglected, abandoned and left for dead (whether physically, mentally or spiritually). As I am an abuse survivor, I believe there should be justice as well as mercy. I’ll explain as I go.

The first article about the mother cutting off her abuser’s genitals, I understand her frustration (not justifying her actions), but at the same time, she needed to know if what she believed was really true. It’s sad that the justice system is more than willing to punish anyone who takes the law into their hands, but at the same time, they will turn around and let the abuser to run rampant. It’s not all the justice system’s fault, a lot of the blame resides in the family structure.

The second article sends chills down my back. To see children so young die for whatever reason is an adult’s worst nightmare. What makes this story so chilling is this: the mother and aunt were home when the girls hung themselves. I mention my thoughts on that in the final paragraph.

The third article should make everybody cringe. A mother (as you see in the photo cheesing away) sexually abuses her children. We spend so much time focusing on the abuser and not caring for those who can’t defend themselves. And here’s the sad part of this article: she’s being held on 2 million dollars bond on the charges of sexual abuse of a child under 12 years old and child neglect. No offense: if it had been someone of color, the abuser would be immediately in jail on a life sentence (or even worse, if an abused child tries to protect him/herself, they would end up in jail and the abuser gets a slap on the wrist). And we wonder why we are in the shape we’re in.

The fourth article takes place in a different country, but it actually angers me to the core. Now this is really destroy something beautiful that God created, virginity and purity! For a mother to have children and sell them to sexual predators is a heinous crime. The infamous question I have to ask is this: are the children being prayed for, in counseling? Their innocence was robbed! As for the mother, who was being extremely selfish and devilish to rob these girls of their virginity for money, she needs mercy (because I have a gut feeling she was molested) and justice for she knew of the crime she did! Rhonda Walker (author of Healing The Rage Within says this): This is sad and I feel for the young girls. What goes through a mothers head to make the decision to prostitute her daughters? I mean her daughters are in her image...why does she hate herself so much and why does she hate her daughters? We know hurt people hurt people so I wonder if this was done to her. I wonder if this is her norm? I Hope and pray her daughters get the help they need and for the ones missing, I pray they are safe.

It’s like the judicial system/government want these children to die. In fact, the government should go on and say, since we don’t like what God has ordained (the family structure), let’s break down the family by first and foremost strip the child from the family and then we will do as we did in the Bible days, kill children at will. Pharaoh wanted Hebrew boys under 2 to be killed and Herod wanted babies under 2 to be killed.

I ask this question in my fictional memoir Deaf, Dumb, Blind & Stupid: “And WHY, isn’t anything done to the parent or the abuser? How do we rectify this problem? Parents, you are to love and protect your children. Once you become a parent, it is no longer about what is convenient for YOU... you are now charged with caring for the life of your child until that child is able to care for him or herself. And one never stops being a parent, even until old age. So, what do we do? Say to the abused, “the Lord says to forgive and get over it?” That’s not an easy fix for someone who has suffered under the hands of the enemy who’s trying to kill them. To add insult to injury, no charges are brought up against the abusers who are in some cases even protected by other adults – and cursed is the victim. I’m not saying the victim should go on living life constantly as the victim, but in the midst of the abuse, why curse the victim?”

Why The Judicial System/Government Is Failing Abused Children (Part 3)

This is Part 3.

It was pressed on my spirit (New Year's Day) to do a post on this topic. This is dear to my heart and it's my prayer after you read this, you will be moved to action. In the final part, I will share my thoughts as to why the judicial system is failing. I will come back to the three articles mentioned in Parts 1 & 2, but I want to bring up a different article because this is outside the U.S., but it still needs our attention. Underneath the link (please read this), my fellow advocate Jean Marie is going to share her thoughts about this article.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/25/world/americas/colombia-mom-sells-daughters/

To me the most haunting part of this article is this.  "Police investigators say Zapata also forced her older daughters to drink alcohol and do drugs. Some ended up working as prostitutes and are missing, police said."

With January being Human Trafficking Prevention Month I think it is important to face the erie presence of Human Trafficking.  Human trafficking rings are so skilled that once a person disappears into the ring you only have a few days to find the trail, after that the trail goes cold.  This is like a ghost in the night, stealing our children.  Once they are gone they are gone, lost in an erie underworld where they could have been murdered early on, or they could live a lifetime lost in the underworld of perpetual sexual slavery.  

Another haunting part of this story is this "When Zapata was standing in front of the cameras Wednesday, one of the reporters shouted a question to her: "Did you prostitute your daughters?" She answered: "No, my darling."  When you watch the video Zapata first takes on the visual expression of being a victim herself.  Take away the news and the police, if you saw her crying like this, acting the victim, would you believe her, would you comfort her?   We have a natural tendency to want to comfort those who are crying.  Like most perpetrators she has learned to use emotions as a manipulation.  Then when questioned about her heinous acts she takes on the visual expression of a comforting mother.  In her best motherly voice she says to a complete stranger "No, my darling."  Take away the cameras and police once again, and watch this perpetrator feign motherly love towards her children.  Would we believe the emotional mask, as she once again uses emotion as a manipulation?

I applaud the young lady that finally was strong enough to stand up to this mother-monster.  She then had to run for her life and hide.  If the other victims believed there was a safe way out, there was a trustworthy person to report to, then they might not be missing today.

 

Jean Marie

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Why The Judicial System/Government Is Failing Abused Children (Part 2)

This is Part 2.

It was pressed on my spirit (New Year's Day) to do a post on this topic. This is dear to my heart and it's my prayer after you read this, you will be moved to action. In the final part, I will share my thoughts as to why the judicial system is failing. Meanwhile, I want to share three articles with you and hear what some of my fellow authors, fellow survivors & fellow advocates have to say as to why the judicial system/government is failing abused children.

Article 1:
http://www.okcfox.com/story/24336336/police-woman-concerned-son-was-assaulted-kidnaps-man-and-slices-genitals

 

Article 2 (this one focuses on suicide – which the rate for children is increasing):

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/5-year-old-girls-hangs-california-possible-foul-play/

 

Article 3:

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/disgusting-mother-accused-sexually-abusing-children-agesa-8-33/

 

Marlanda Yarber (fellow survivor) has this to say:

Article 1: I certainly understand the rage of this mother. Questions that comes to my mind after reading this article are : What caused this mother to believe that her child was abused? What made her determine this person to be the one who violated her child? This mother should have made a police report, she should have not participated in such drastic actions. She should have waited for an investigation from the authorities of law.
Article 2 : This is indeed a strange incident, almost unbelievable. The authorities need to thoroughly investigate this. How sad!
Article 3: There is clearly something wrong with anyone, especially a mother, that can provide such a monstrous smile, after being accused by her own child of such grotesque acts. The fact that she could be a possible drug user is irrelevant. Drugs only enhance the evil that is already inside. Drug use should never lessen accountability. These children need counseling immediately!
All of these are heartbreaking examples of how child abuse continues to plague society. Children often have no voice or do not know how to properly use it. For abused children, most without an advocate, out of sight, out of mind, justice for them slips through the legal system. Many adults, even within law enforcement, are untrained on how serious the effect of child sexual abuse is. Some adults continue believe the antiquated subliminal traditions of silence and inaction are acceptable. There are unfortunately still too many reasons are the legal system continues to fail children. Dialogue, training, accountability and proper punishment are the only things that will ever effectively combat child abuse and the effects of it.

Cassandra Rodgers has this to say (author of soon-to-be released Victory Cometh For You):

Article 1: Instead of this mother spending her time to kidnap this 18 year old to get revenge she should be trying to find help for her son. Although, I understand her pain and the pain her son is going though that does not make it right. On the other hand the police was not listening to her concerns and so she felt like she had to take matters into her own hands. I feel sad for her son because he is really the only victim in this. It hurts to see a family torn because of this horrible act of CSA. We can do our part by reporting abuse but the law must step up and do their duty. I've seen it happen time and time again an entire system of people parents, teacher, family, friends, police etc... fail to do what's right. The child goes ignored and forgotten and the abuse gets swept under the rug.

 

Article 2: The entire family is lying. I don't believe that a 5year old child went missing and then out of no where she was found in the living room hung to death. Everyone claim to have nothing to do with it, they are clearly lying and they need to be locked up. This is a classic case of shifting responsibility, adults not wanting to take responsibility for their child and for the abuse that they inflicted on her. They have the nerve to blame the 5 year old child for her own death. This is so disgusting.

 

Article 3: This is not uncommon especially in poverty stricken areas where drugs are rampant. Parents prostitute their children force their children to have sex with anyone to make a quick buck so that they can get their drugs. This is all too common, it happening right now as we speak. It makes me want to cry! I can't comment too much on this one it's just too scary.

 

 

Why The Judicial System/Government Is Failing Abused Children (Part 1)

It was pressed on my spirit (New Year's Day) to do a post on this topic. This is dear to my heart and it's my prayer after you read this, you will be moved to action. In the final part, I will share my thoughts as to why the judicial system is failing. Meanwhile, I want to share three articles with you and hear what some of my fellow authors, fellow survivors & fellow advocates have to say as to why the judicial system/government is failing abused children.

Article 1:
http://www.okcfox.com/story/24336336/police-woman-concerned-son-was-assaulted-kidnaps-man-and-slices-genitals

 

Article 2 (this one focuses on suicide – which the rate for children is increasing):

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/5-year-old-girls-hangs-california-possible-foul-play/

 

Article 3:

http://freepatriot.org/2013/12/31/disgusting-mother-accused-sexually-abusing-children-agesa-8-33/

 

Rhonda Walker has this to say (she's the founder of Healing R.A.G.E. & the author of Healing The Rage Within):

Article one has me disturbed just for the fact that the story does not go into detail as to why the mother thought the man was abusing her son. Did the mother see something or did the child say something to alert her. Although we KNOW abuse happens, we also KNOW that false accusations also happen. I think before we outright accuse or harm someone...we must have the facts...evidence of abuse so to speak. If the abuse did happen, i commend the mother for defending her child..but we must have proof.
As for article 2, I'm also stumped because it seems to me that a child can not hang herself from a ceiling...not a 5yr old child. I think there is some foul play in this situation. From the neighbor the children were often left unsupervised so that leads me to think child neglect was in place. I think the police really needs to look at the adults that were left home.
Article 3 is just sickening and she needs serious jail time. she obviously has a drug problem and doing whatever to the children for money. sick!!
It saddens me to read stuff like this because the children are innocent and they are being harmed. Sadly the system does not get involved unless abuse is reported and oftentimes its not.

Lisa Wynn (fellow survivor) has this to say: 
After reading all 3 reports ... Imagine if SUDDENLY every child's untold hells were told by media. Imagine if SUDDENLY every adult survivor's voice was also amplified by the media. Do you think that would be enough to make it impossible for the world to continue to deny / remain unaware of how many people walking this earth are affected by child abuse? Do you think this would be enough to ensure that every abuser was identified and held accountable? I just don't know.

 

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